Being Lonely is not something anyone wants. Loneliness is one thing where you give yourself the little me time ,it can also be a powerful motivator but being lonely sounds painful and cruel. It makes you compromised for many things, you never wanted.
11 things that a loner faces, let’s take a look
Disrespect
Taking a rough joke, you couldn’t laugh about, but still managed to keep smiling thinking someone is there for you. Loneliness erodes your self-esteem.
Lone Player
Are you doing alone all the emotional heavy lifting with first to text and getting late replies and still giving yourself the excuse that its all because the other person is probably busy.
Bread crumbing
Geeting just enough bits to get your hopes get going , when you all along know that its never there .The last moment temporary dopamine from a emoji keeps you holding on.
Incompatibility
Staying back in a relationship which cant hold back , you don’t share absolutely no common interests and no fundamental differences. When you are doing things just for the sake of it.
Toxic Family
When your friendships or relationships hold no value and you are just an option not priority. When you feel alone in holiday and you kept your schedule open, just in case.
Wrong Dates
When your intuition screams no 10 minutes after meeting up and you still stay back for three hours by telling yourself atleast someone is there for me.
Silencing your needs
Showing yourself as a low maintenance so that the other treats you and don’t gets tired of you. When you just happy being occupied and actual happiness doesn’t count.
Emotional Hunger
Ever felt like you are serving your story to co workers, uber drivers and random strangers. Loneliness creates emotional hunger where you are looking for a window to just vent out.
Over Explanations
Are giving out too much of explanation for anything to everything just out of the fear being discarded. And you are not sure if you explained yourself enough.
Doomscrolling
When human conversations fail to happen and you lookout for social media binges for hours to ease the void. When watching others happy life is less painful than sitting with own thoughts
Reality Check
Loneliness is a state of mind and not a fact. Letting yourself seen as something your not or making yourself feel insufficient makes you more loner. Instead of being used to fill the gap , its always better to know yourself and engage in things that heal you over the long run.
